The Importance of Movember: A Psychotherapeutic Perspective

As we move through November, we also welcome #movember, a month dedicated to raising awareness about men’s health issues, particularly mental health and prostate/testicular cancer. 

Breaking the Stigma

Societal expectations often dictate that men should be stoic, strong, and resilient, discouraging them from expressing vulnerability or seeking help. In therapy, I often hear 'I don't know why I'm here' or 'I should just be able to get on with it'. What I often see:

1. Depression and Anxiety: While these conditions can affect anyone, men may experience them differently. They might exhibit irritability, anger, or withdrawal.

2. Substance Abuse: Some men may turn to alcohol or drugs as a way to cope with emotional pain, leading to a cycle of dependency that further complicates mental health.

3. Suicidal Ideation: Statistics show that men are at a higher risk for suicide. The pressure to maintain a façade of strength can contribute to feelings of hopelessness and despair.

4. Relationship Struggles: Difficulty in expressing emotions can lead to challenges in personal and professional relationships. Men may find it hard to connect with partners, friends, or colleagues on an emotional level.

Movember encourages men to prioritize their well-being and seek professional help, which can be transformative.

Breaking the Cycle: Encouraging Open Dialogue

As a psychotherapeutic counsellor, I recognise the importance of creating a space for men to express their feelings without judgment. Therapy is not just for those in crisis. It’s a valuable tool for self-discovery and personal growth. Therapy is a proactive step towards mental wellness. 

Outside of the counselling room here are some ways to foster open dialogue about mental health:

1. Normalize Vulnerability: Encourage conversations about emotions and mental health. 

2. Seek Professional Support. Therapy can help process difficult emotions and support men to re-calibrate their feelings and improve communication with loved ones.

3. Advocate for Support Networks: Peer support groups can provide men with a sense of community. Knowing they are      not alone in their struggles can significantly alleviate feelings of      isolation.

Let’s use this month to reflect on our own health in all its complexities by creating spaces where men can share experiences, challenges, and triumphs. 

Reach out to friends and loved ones, and advocate for a culture that prioritizes mental well-being. LOOK FOR SUPPORT. If you would like to see how I can help, please send me an email on sarahmcmurraycounselling@gmail.comor go to my website at www.sarahmcmurraycounselling.com

Resources

Useful Links local to Tunbridge Wells

www.mentalhealthresource.org.uk– Tunbridge Wells

www.mankindcic.co.uk– Heathfield

www.hischarity.org.uk– Kent wide

www.support.dadsunltd.org.uk– Kent and Medway – money and mental health